Couples Coaching
Book a free 30 minute Connecting Chat with meI help couples, through an individualized approach, to achieve and maintain healthy successful relationships.
Themes I love to work with:
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Creating clarity around the couple’s vision for your future, your roles in the relationship, understanding each other’s needs, personality differences and expectations, and plans for a future family. Sustaining a healthy balance of intimacy, connection, and independence.
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Building on shared core values and needs, and a shared vision for the future. Developing relationship intelligence skills. Keeping communication open and learning to diffuse conflict without damaging the connection. Setting healthy boundaries for mutual respect and increasing love.
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Embracing the life change and keeping the communication open, honest, and supportive eg. through Illness, radical surgery or cancer.
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Understanding and embracing personality differences and each other’s love languages. Building more intimacy, mutual compassion, love, respect, individual growth and embracing each other’s differences.
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Mediating between the parties to minimise damage for both parties, with fairness and maturity while maintaining healthy boundaries. Reconfiguring the family in the best possible way with a solid parenting plan.
I believe that a long-term relationship between 2 people is truly healthy and successful when the ME identities of both partners mutually see to the well-being of the US identity, and themselves.
Some of the roles I play as your relationship coach are:
The objective observer
The supporter of the intimate relationship space between you both
The co-creator of processes and practices to create the desired change
The co-constructor collaborating with both of you to find suitable solutions to get your relationship back into the healthy and successful relationship zone
My coaching processes and effective solutions are appropriate for all intimate partnerships and structures whether they be heterosexual, LGBTQI or love triangles etc
By the end of my full couple coaching program you will be able to:
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Have understanding
Understand deeply with compassionate acceptance who you both are in personality, and authenticity with the use of enneagram reports and coaching.
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Have confidence
That you and your partner can handle conflict and communicate in a healthy, loving, trusting and respectful way.
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Have perspective
Easily access the perspective of the other so as to support, understand and affirm each other and find workable solutions.
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Have insight
Separate what is yours, theirs, our ‘stuff’ and feel, think and act accordingly with accountability.
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Have the knowledge
on how to feed, foster, honour, and put love into the relationship space.
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Have the tools
to navigate through complexities that impact the relationship space whilst maintaining a meaningful connection, and a healthy intimate partnership.
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Live consciously
and be aligned, knowing what your values, beliefs and vision are individually and as a couple.
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Respect and support
each other’s individual identities.
I offer a series of set coaching packages; however we most often design a bespoke package for you, focussed on your needs, goals, intentions, desires and vision.
All the packages to some degree follow a similar path using the ACT Process.
What my Clients Are Saying
“The enneagram was our starting block as understanding myself was an important as part of my coaching goals. I am an enneagram type 1, and this has greatly aided my understanding of my perceptions and responses to the happenings in my life, and my relationships. We then tackled my relationship with my long-term girlfriend who was keen to join some of our sessions after she had identified her enneagram type with Lilian. Through opening communication between us, building trust and the homework practices we were given, Lilian helped us make sense of why we had got into such a dark place and how to be more open with each other even during times of conflict. We learnt to respect our relationship space more. Lilian in a non-descriptive, non-judgemental way helped us to help ourselves.” - Martin A.
“Lilian came into our lives as our relationship coach about 18 months after our first child was born. We were at an all-time low having neglected our relationship. Our boy was born a month early with special needs and our quiet life turned into chaos. He screamed and we were sad, perplexed, and exhausted to the point that we stopped communicating with each other, and when we did it was with anger and resentment. Lilian worked with us together and separatelyover the next year. In her compassionate and safe space, we unpacked, cried, rebuilt our connection, and found our way forward together. I didn’t think we would make it but with Lilian’s relationship expertise, ability to hold us when our sessions got rough and her experience with special need families, we found our sanity and our love. Lilian introduced us to a number of helpful tools but understanding each other through our enneagram types has had the most lasting impact not only on us but also our little family.” - Paul W.
